Mates in Minutes

The basis of any relationship should be just the interaction between the two people involved. One person meets another and whatever transpires between them and how they relate to one another is strictly their business. A simple theory, really, to understand.
But in real life, where most of us have…
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Whenever people speak about wanting their partner to change, it’s usually with an air of half-resignation that their partner won’t (or can’t). Yet I have discovered that when the impossible happens and a partner does start changing their attitude and behavior, it’s not quite as easy an adjustment…
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A common complaint I hear women say who are involved in a long-term relationship is: “Why doesn’t he want sex anymore?”
A common complaint I hear men say who are involved in long-term relationship is: “Why doesn’t she want sex anymore?”
Now here’s the kicker: if you spoke to both sexes within any…
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The older I get, the less I like hearing about all the rules that are publicized for men and women to do to get along with one another in relationships. The ones I take the most exception to are the ones that give a list of how women and men should act, behave and speak (not to mention wear) in…
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The hardest thing about spending a great deal of time with an unaffectionate man is seeing him be affectionate to someone or something else-such as a pet or another person. Since you’ve seen with your own eyes that he can became soft and tender, then you feel like you know that deep down inside of…
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There are so many ways to break up with people, aren’t there? Yet where is all this knowledge when we discover that we just want out of the relationship that we’re in?
I know the movies make fun of breaking up with someone. They make it seem the easiest thing to do unless the person you’re trying…
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Sometimes dreams shared with someone are hard to let go of. Like maybe some of the dreams that you’ve been hanging on to that include your ex-husband or ex-wife.
It took me years to wean myself off the dreams that my ex-husband and I had built. It’s not even that we had had so much time together…
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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone for so long that they claim that they recognize your habits even before you do? And over time you’ve found, much to your annoyance, that what they said was true?

“So I have to change my habits so that he/she doesn’t think they know all about…
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I was cleaning the kitchen the other day when a song came on the radio that spoke about a lonely girl wanting to meet a lonely man. I found my reaction to be: “Yuck. Lonely? What guy wants to meet a lonely girl? And what girl wants to meet a lonely guy?”

Yet, aren’t there many of us who are…
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Today I was listening to a young woman tell me how much of herself she is giving and continues to give, to the one that she loves. She told me that she fluctuates going back and forth in reasoning, knowing that his actions are not good for her, but she keeps loving him anyway. When she said: “I…
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